How to be a better partner - (podcast within)

By Brian Calley

Being a better partner involves a combination of self-awareness, supportive behaviours, effective communication, and mutual respect. Key strategies include knowing yourself, appreciating your partner’s strengths, supporting each other’s growth, and fostering open, constructive communication.

Core Principles for Better Partnerships

  • Self-Knowledge and Realistic Expectations: Understanding your own needs and values helps in making better partner choices and managing relationship expectations. Seeking a “good enough” partner, rather than perfection, leads to healthier, more sustainable relationships.
  • Mutual Respect and Trust: Building trust, showing respect, and practising forgiveness are foundational for strong partnerships.
  • Constructive Communication: Open dialogue, attentive listening, and expressing emotions are essential. Developing conflict management skills and creating safe spaces for sharing can reduce stress and improve relationship quality.

Support and Appreciation

  • Appreciate Strengths: Actively recognising and appreciating your partner’s strengths, especially through behaviours, enhances relationship satisfaction.
  • Support Growth: Providing nurturing, action-oriented support for your partner’s self-improvement efforts leads to higher relationship quality and personal growth for both partners.
  • Focus on Self-Change: Efforts to improve the relationship are more successful when individuals focus on their own growth rather than trying to change their partner.

Practical Skills and Behaviours

About the Author

Brian Calley - Couples Therapist

Brian is a licensed couples therapist with expertise in evidence-based relationship interventions. He specializes in helping couples develop stronger communication patterns and navigate relationship challenges through scientifically-proven methods.

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