1. Speaker–Listener with a “floor” object
   Time: 10–15 min
   Goal: understanding before problem-solving
   How: One speaks in short I-statements about one event. The other paraphrases content and feeling, then asks, “Did I get that right?” Clarify. Swap roles.
   Metric: percentage of times the Speaker says, “Yes, that’s it.”
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2. Daily stress-reducing chat (not about the relationship)
   Time: 15–20 min
   Goal: support, not fixing
   How: One shares an outside stressor. The other asks 2–3 open questions, names the feeling, and validates. Only give advice if asked. Swap.
   Metric: count unsolicited solutions. Aim: zero.
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3. Guess and verify empathy drill
   Time: 8 min
   Goal: sharpen empathy with feedback
   How: A talks for 2 min about a mild stressor. B quietly writes three guesses: A’s main thought, feeling, and concern. Read them. A confirms or corrects. Swap.
   Metric: percentage of correct elements each round.
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4. XYZ plus reflect
   Time: 6–8 min
   Goal: clear meaning and emotion
   How: Speaker uses “When X happened, I felt Y, because Z.” Listener reflects facts and feeling, then asks one open question (not “why”). Repeat to “Yes, that’s it.”
   Metric: average reflections before “Yes”.
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5. Gratitude volley 2 by 2
   Time: 3–4 min
   Goal: notice partner positives
   How: Each shares two specific appreciations from the last 48 hours. Listener mirrors key words and impact before swapping.
   Metric: ratio of specifics to generalities. Aim: all specific.
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6. Soft start-up response drill
   Time: 10 min
   Goal: cut escalation early
   How: One reads a real harsh opener from your life. Listener replies with three parts: reflect the emotion, summarise the core request, invite a gentle restart. Practise 3–4 items each.
   Metric: felt de-escalation on a 0–10 scale.
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7. Physiological time-out and return script
   Time: 20–30 min break, then a 5 min restart
   Goal: reset so you can listen again
   How: Either can call “time-out” when flooded. Separate and self-soothe (walk, breathing, shower, music). Reconvene with a short script: appreciation, topic, gentle opener. Continue with Exercise 1.
   Metric: percentage of time-outs that reconvene the same day.
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8. Weekly State-of-Us‍Time: 50 min
   Goal: routine check-in, not firefighting
   Agenda: appreciations x2 each, week’s wins and loads, one issue with Speaker–Listener, two small requests for next week.
   Metric: completion rate and number of issues resolved without spill-over.
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9. Capitalising on good news (active-constructive responding)
   Time: 6–8 min
   Goal: respond to positives in a way that builds connection
   How: A shares a recent win. Listener asks for specifics, reflects effort and meaning, and amplifies the good. Swap. Briefly try a flat or dismissive reply to feel the contrast.
   Metric: partner-rated felt enthusiasm 0–10.
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10. Bids for connection, turn-toward practice‍Time: 10 min daily
    Goal: catch small moments you usually miss
    How: Each names three bids they made today. Partner recalls whether they turned toward, away, or against. Practise a better turn-toward line for any misses.
    Metric: daily percentage of bids turned toward. Target 80% or higher.

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