How to live with a difficult spouse

Table of Contents

Communication Strategies

  • Use “I” statements instead of accusations
  • Listen actively without preparing your rebuttal
  • Choose your battles – focus on major issues only
  • Take breaks during heated discussions

Self-Management

  • Set clear boundaries and enforce them consistently
  • Control your reactions, not your spouse’s behaviour
  • Practise emotional regulation (deep breathing, timeouts)
  • Focus on your own growth and interests

Relationship Building

  • Find common ground and shared activities
  • Express appreciation for positive behaviours
  • Schedule quality time together regularly
  • Look for underlying needs behind difficult behaviour

When to Seek Help

  • Couples therapy for communication breakdowns
  • Individual therapy for coping strategies
  • Immediate help for abuse, threats, or safety concerns

Self-Care Essentials

  • Maintain friendships and support networks
  • Pursue personal hobbies and interests
  • Take care of physical and mental health

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